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This is a difficult culture for you as a Christian teen, and you deserve answers to the questions you have from a Biblical perspective.
Look at the questions some other teens are asking. Feel free write your own teen answers to them, and ask questions of your own. This page is for you! Teen Answers Here is a question from a reader from Virginia. Question: Well I been on and off about this issue. I'm trying to figure out if I should loose my virginity now or wait. Like I know God wants us to wait until we are married but I don't wanna really get married!!! I don't get the point of it! you shouldn't need a piece of paper basically telling you that your gotta be with this person forever I don't like that at all.plus you need a ring just to prove?.that makes no sense!!!but I don't get why married couples say like "I'm so glad we waited until our wedding night" and that you should wait.... what makes it so much better if you just wait for just one night to loose it? Answer: Dear Reader I have been pondering my reply to you ever since I first read your e-mail. You brought up some very good questions, which deserve some well thought-out answers. I do not want to be trite nor simplistic in my answer. First I would like to address questions we have about the commands of God in general, and then I would like to deal with the subject of your questions. In general, there are two questions that I would like to answer. 1. How does the world view the commandments of God? 2. How should Christians view the commandments of God? The world, in our day, has lost the concept of a standard of right and wrong—especially a standard that is given to us by God. We live in an “I’m OK; you’re OK” world. What seems right to me is right for me, and what seems right to you is right for you. In other words, we are each the master of our own destiny, and as such can make our own determinations of what is right or wrong. Consequently, morals worldwide have disintegrated drastically. We may think this is just part of the new revelation to man who has finally evolved to this heightened state of being. However, as Solomon said in Ecclesiastes, “There is nothing new under the sun.” Already in the book of Genesis we see man submitting to his lusts, especially in the area of sexual sins, or sexual impurity. So, it is no surprise that the world largely ignores the Laws of God as prudish. Even if there is a God, which most question, He has no right to interfere with our happiness. Unfortunately, this attitude has spread to the Church at large. However, no matter how you or I, or any one else may feel about it, God has given us very specific commandments, especially in the area of morality. This law is summarized in the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20, and laid out more specifically in the book of Deuteronomy. As Christians we understand that the sexual relationship is a gift given by God to married couples. In considering this, let’s think a moment about Eve, in the Garden of Eden. How did Satan approach Eve? He asked Eve a question, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden?” Eve answered by embellishing God’s commandment. “We may eat the fruit of the trees of the garden; but of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat it, nor shall you touch it, lest you die.’” Then the serpent said, “You will not surely die. For God knows that in the day you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” What just happened in that conversation? First, the serpent contradicted God, and then rationalized God’s reasoning by saying, God knows that you will become one of us, because you will know good and evil. Was the serpent right? No! Satan, who comes to us in the same way, began with a lie, and then rationalized the commandment of God. What happened to Eve? Did she die? Yes! Did she actually become like God? No! For the remainder of her days on this earth, she must have regretted the choice she made. She and Adam, who once knew the joy and peace of communion with God, were thrust out of the Garden. Life was never the same again. Why has God given the commandments He has, regarding sexuality? God has ordained the family unit, with the father as the head, the mother at his side in submission to him, and the children in subjection to them both. As such, they are a picture of Christ and His bride, the Church. Our Creator God knows us better than we could ever know ourselves. Because of our sin nature, we chaff at His commandments. Because we love, God, however, and desire to please Him, we seek to live in obedience to those commandments. Just as Adam and Eve enjoyed a time of peace and communion with God, we, as God’s children, have the same opportunity to fellowship with Him, though not in perfection like Adam and Eve. When we live in obedience to God we enjoy times of wonderful peace and joy, such as the world does not know, nor can offer. That peace and joy, however, is destroyed when we disobey God. Until we come back to God in repentance, seeking His forgiveness, that sweet fellowship and communion is gone. The real issue here, then, is not whether you will loose your virginity. The real issue is whether you will obey the Lord. The Bible is not silent on the subject; God’s Laws are clearly given. I caution you to think very carefully about what it means to be a Christian. As long as we believe in God, are we a Christian? No! The Bible tells us that the devils believe also, and tremble. What, then, makes one a true believer? A true believer is one who first recognizes his or her true state before a holy and righteous God: a sinner, separated forever from God, because God cannot even look upon sin. Secondly, they understand that Jesus Christ, the Son of God, as well as being the God-man, because He never sinned, is the only One who can pay the debt of our sin. The true believer comes before Christ in repentance, accepting the Lord Jesus as their personal Savior. When that happens, not only is the person saved, but the Holy Spirit enters the heart of the new believer, changing them forever. Now, instead of living life for their own pleasure, they, because of their love for Christ, seek to live their life in obedience to Him. There are some who teach that a person can be a Christian even if they do not choose to obey God. They call such a person a carnal Christian, however the Bible does not teach such a thing. When one accepts Christ, he accepts Him as both his Lord and His Savior. The consequent joy and peace are unknown by the world. I know this was a rather long answer, but I hope it helps you to understand what the Bible teaches on this subject. I pray that you will choose to be obedient to Christ. The joy that awaits us in heaven, not to speak of the joy and peace we have while still on this earth far outweigh any preconceived benefit we think we might receive by living as those of this world. God Bless You, Linda Teen Answers Here is a question from Laurie (name has been changed.) Question: Hi , I am a newly active christian, and I have a boyfriend I decided to break up with him because I know that it is not good because I am too young to have a relationship with him...and I think God wants me to prioritize first my study and my family,, my problem is my ex boyfriend want to wait for me ..and still be with him after my college .. is it okey to give him my promise even if I dont know if he is the one that God wants to be with me...???????? Answer: God Bless You, Answer: God Bless You, Answer: You are delving into one of the greatest difficulties in the Christian life. No one likes to be told to wait. I, of all people, am probably one of the most impetuous persons alive, and have had to deal with this all of my life. The fact that God lets you like each other is a great blessing. As both of you are Christians, I would suggest you spend some time together studying God's Word. Read about couples, and what God says regarding marriage. The Bible does not hold a very popular stance in our day of "If you love him, it's OK." Perhaps God is preparing the two of you for some great things, and this is just the first step--the first test of your faithfulness to God even above your love and faithfulness to each other. I do know that God's Word is true and changeless, and is the only path that leads to a life of peace and joy, so I encourage you to tread carefully, and cry out to the Lord for grace to be faithful to Him, above all. Here is a Bible passage that I often cling to in times of great difficulty and temptation, God Bless You, Answer: I was really saddened to get your comments. I must admit that I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through, and therefore do not want to give you simple platitudes. What I do know is that whether no one else in the whole world cares about you, Jesus does. It certainly does not seem like it though, does it? I am sure you think a loving God would not put you through a life like you have. God, however, is preparing you for the future. In what way, you may ask? I do not know, but I know it is true. You did not say whether you are a Christian or not. I would encourage you to go to Christ. The Bible tells us in Isaiah 55: 6 Seek ye the LORD while he may be found, call ye upon him while he is near:This plea, is not just for you, and certainly was not just for Isaiah. This plea is for all of us, and the resulting promise is, too. Only in Christ will you care to forsake the things of the world and turn from evil. When you do, by His grace, He will abundantly pardon you, and change your life forever! Ask your foster parents to allow you to go to church; find a nearby church that teaches the truths of the Bible. There, God will not only teach you His Word, but give you some lasting, true, friends. I would encourage you, and all teens, to realize that these years, though they seem long, will soon be over. Then, as an adult, the rest is up to you! I have been, and will continue, to pray for you, that God will touch your life and your very soul in such a way that you will turn to Him. God Bless You, Answer: In college, I had a professor who challenged us by saying, "Do not date anyone you would not want to marry. Every date is a potential spouse." We thought he was crazy--what about just dating for fun? Through the years I have learned the soundness of his advice. How quickly we can become entangled in a relationship that we cannot seem to get out of. I am so happy this person is praying about the situation and seeking God's advice. My advice would be to go very slowly with this. This guy may be a wonderful Christian, but having married and divorced in less than a year leaves me with questions. We are filled with a world that has gone crazy over love. Now, I am not knocking love; I love my husband dearly, but the key word here is commitment. Are you going to marry until the love seems to have disappeared? Or, are you committed enough to stick it out. Every marriage will go through troubling times, but in the end, that is what causes your love to blossom and grow. 5 Walk in wisdom toward those who are outside, redeeming the time. God Bless You, Perhaps I am too rigid and or demanding. I just want to expose him to all the church he could get while living with us. At present he is 15 years old, he doesn't like church anymore and I keep telling me other parents doesn't make their children go to church and they let them decide when to go or not to go. He thinks I am not flexible. This is a question, or should I say, plea for help, that I received over a year ago. I would like to hear from some teens. How would you answer this Mom? Here are some thoughts to get you started. Answer: (Thank you so much for your input, In a way, you almost answered your own question. The most important thing you said was, "Stay true to myself," and may I expand that to, "Stay true to Christ." The peer pressures you face in high school will be the same ones you face all of your life. Remember, that if you stay true to Christ, you will have enemies, and unfortunately, they may be the very people who had been your best friends. Christ said, "It is not you that they hate; it is me." (Roughly paraphrased). As a Christian, you have one purpose to fulfill in this life, and that is to walk faithfully with God. He will lead you in the way you should go, and He will replace lost friends with those who share your faith.
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